Maintaining Good Relationships

When you are involved in any relationship, you might be propelled to do things that you do not want to. But in any relationship, one has to adjust to the other person’s needs and expectations, and also sacrifice some things. However, if you do not wish to do so, then there is no harm in it. The other person will surely understand. But you must know how to refuse nicely. One must know how to say no in a manner which does not provoke, pressurize or creates a confrontational situation. It is something that a major number of people never realize and find it extremely hard to say non without hurting the other person. If you are one of these people, then the following guidelines may come in handy for you

•	Whenever someone requests you or asks you to do something, appreciate this gesture to make the other person feel that he or she is important. Mention something like ‘Thanks for asking me’ or ‘How nice of you to ask me’.
•	Never make the other person feel that his or her wishes are unimportant for you. Always make sure that you acknowledge their requests and wisher by telling them ‘I realize how important this is’ or ‘I understand how much this means to you’.
•	Finally, you must always give a valid reason for your refusal. Never say no to the other person for no reason. Also, try to get the other person to help you in resoling this predicament. You can always ask for their suggestions as to what need to be done in this situation or ask them if you can do it some other time.

It takes a lot of patience and will to make sure the relationships keeps working. Even if you refuse the other person, you can make your relationship even better if you make the other person know his or her importance and respect their wishes and decisions. However, do not keep on refusing something every time just because you do not like it. You have got to learn to stick to each other by adjusting to their requirements and to yours as well.